The Best Questions For A Very first Date – The OkCupid Blog

How asking certain questions can expose much more

Very first dates are awkward. There is so much you want to know about the person across the table from you, and yet so little you can directly ask.

This postbode is our attempt to end the mystery. Wij took OkCupid’s database of 275,294 match questions — most likely the fattest collection of relationship concerns on earth — and the 776 million answers people have given us, and wij asked:

What questions are effortless to bring up, yet correlate to the deeper, unspeakable, issues people actually care about?

Love, hookup, a soulmate, an argument, whatever you’re looking for, we’ll display you the polite questions to find it. Wij hope they’ll be useful to you ter the existente world.

Very first — define “easy to bring up”

Before wij could go looking for correlations to deeper stuff, our very first task wasgoed to determine which questions were even first-date suitable. I know each person has his own opinion on what’s okay to talk about with a stranger. I also know that if I had to wade through hundreds of thousands of user-submitted questions like thesis verbatim examples:

Q: If you were to be eaten by cannibal, how would you like to be prepaired? Q: do u own Trio or more fake penises te your slagroom? Q: Do you hsve a desent job?

I would go fucking insane. The basic currency of the Internet is human ignorance, and, frankly, our database holds a strong specie position!

So, instead of judging each question’s first-date appropriateness subjectively, I turned to statistics. I determined our candidates were the ones that (a) most people were comfy discussing publicly, and (b) were mathematically likely to tell you something you couldn’t just guess. I sliced OkCupid’s question pool like this:

That blue rectangle is our highest-quality, least-invasive questions, and wij next examined each of them for interesting correlations. (If you’re interested te knowing more about the above graph, you can drop-down an explanation here, finish with an interactive scatter plot that took mij forever to make.)

Now let’s get right to the results. This is the shallow stuff to ask when you want to know something deep:

Okay, if you want to know…

Will my date have hook-up on the very first date?

Do you like the taste of teddybeer?

Among all our casual topics, whether someone likes the taste of fecali is the single best predictor of if he or she has hook-up on the very first date.

No matter their gender or orientation, beer-lovers are 60% more likely to be okay with sleeping with someone they’ve just met. Sadly, this is the only question with a meaningful correlation for women. For guys there are a few others:

Very first, I have to give guys credit for logical thinking: te the post-apocalypse, THERE ARE NO 2nd DATES.

Also, I will never look at fingerless gloves the same way again.

If you want to know…

Do my date and I have long-term potential?

Ask your date (and yourself!)…

Do you like horror movies?

Have you everzwijn traveled around another country alone?

Wouldn’t it be joy to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?

Of all questions adequate to a very first date, the three listed above were the ones couples most often agreed on.

Here’s how wij know…

When someone deletes their OkCupid account, they have the option of providing us a reason, and if that reason is ‘I met somebody on OkCupid,’ they can give us their significant other’s username. Many hundreds of people a day go through the trouble of doing this, so we’ve compiled an excellent dataset of real-world couples. Agreement on thesis three questions correlated best to an presente relationship.

Te fact, 32% of successful couples agreed on all of them — which is Trio.7? the rate of plain coincidence. Thesis questions spil a trio even out-performs OkCupid’s top three user-rated match questions.

Turistas: the best date movie of all time?

If you want to know…

Do my date and I have the same politics?

Ask your date (and yourself!)…

Do you choose the people te your life to be plain or complicated?

Wij were very astonished to find that this one question very strongly predicts a person’s ideas on thesis divisive issues:

Should searing your country’s flag be illegal? Should the death penalty be abolished? Should gay marriage be judicial? Should Evolution and Creationism be trained side-by-side te schools?

Te each case, complexity-preferrers are 65–70% likely to give the Altruista reaction. And those who choose plainness te others are 65–70% likely to give the Conservative one.

This correlation is for a nationwide dataset, it won’t be spil useful ter places where one ideology is much more prevalent than the other. For example, ter Fresh York City there are lots of people who like plainness and yet have Progresista politics.

If you want to know…

Ask your date (and yourself!)…

Do spelling and grammar mistakes annoy you?

If your date answers ‘no’ — i.e. is okay with bad grammar and spelling — the odds of him or hier being at least moderately religious is slightly better than Two:1.

Spil someone who is not himself a believer, I found it rather heartening that tolerance, even on something trivial like this, correlated with belief te Godheid, albeit I should’ve figured out that religious people are okay with petite mistakes. Next to slim vormgeving, what’s a duo typos?

It’s also nice when two fully independent datasets corroborate each other. Last summer, wij analyzed the profile text of half a million user profiles, comparing religion and writing-level. For every one of the faith-based belief systems listed, the people who were the least serious wrote at the highest level.

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